One thing families often worry about when arranging a funeral is who will stand up and speak.

And sometimes, nobody wants to.

They might be worried about:

• Getting upset
• Losing their place
• Not being able to get their words out
• Or simply feeling uncomfortable speaking in front of a room full of people.

And that’s absolutely fine.

You Don’t Have to Deliver a Speech to Make a Funeral Personal

You don’t have to deliver a speech to make a funeral personal.

When I meet with a family, we spend time talking about the person who has died.

I want to hear about:

• Their life
• Their personality
• The things they loved
• The things that drove everyone mad
• And the little stories that made them who they were.

I take those memories and turn them into a personal ceremony, written using the family’s stories and delivered by me.

So even if nobody else stands up to speak, the ceremony can still be full of personal memories and contributions.

What if someone wants to speak but is nervous?

Sometimes a family member would really like to read a poem, share a memory or deliver a tribute, but they’re worried about becoming emotional.

I always offer to help people prepare beforehand, particularly if they’re not used to public speaking.

And if they struggle on the day, I can step in and continue reading for them.

Knowing that someone is there to help can make a huge difference.

There Are Other Ways to Contribute

Speaking isn’t the only way to be involved.

Family and friends can:

• Help choose music
• Suggest readings
• Share photographs
• Contribute memories
• Or choose a small symbolic gesture to include in the ceremony.

Some families prefer a simple service with just a few carefully chosen words and time for reflection.

Others want something full of stories and humour.

Neither is more meaningful than the other.

We’ll Find a Way That Works for Your Family

We’ll find a way that works for your family.

A funeral isn’t a public speaking competition. It’s an opportunity to remember someone, share their story and say goodbye in a way that feels right.

If you’re arranging a funeral, memorial or celebration of life, I can help you create a ceremony that reflects the person you’re remembering, whether anyone else wants to speak or not.